With cremation becoming more popular these days, it is opening up more options for family to hold their own memorial service or ash scattering ceremony. If you wish to save costs on the overall expense of a funeral, arranging your own memorial service can certainly help.
A cremation with service from a funeral home can cost you anything upwards of around $2,000 An alternative is to arrange for a simple direct cremation, which should cost around $800-$1000, and then conduct your own memorial service.
You can gather family and friends together at home, or at a special place to the deceased and hold a ‘life celebration’, where family members can share stories. You can make it as simple, or elaborate as you desire. Choosing to personalize it as a tribute to the loved one you lost. Did he or she have a special interest, or quirky hobby, that you can theme your tribute around?
You can make your own ‘Memory Board’ or slideshow, make your own guest book/board for guests to leave a memorial tribute in. Whether you decide to offer food and drink and go for a party style send-off, or just gather together quietly to pay last respects, YOU are completely in control.
There are so many wonderful ideas of how you can personalize a memorial, and if you do it yourself, then it truly IS personal.
INEXPENSIVE IDEAS FOR A PERSONALIZED MEMORIAL:
Get everyone to bring something that reminds them of the deceased
Hand everyone some memory seeds to plant
Have a butterfly or Chinese lantern release
Record a memory movie and make copies for everyone gathered
Have a themed event related to the deceased’s life
Create a ‘Memory Tree’
Have a candle-lighting ceremony
Whether you choose to keep or scatter the cremated remains is entirely up to you. Many people can scatter all the ashes and then regret that they have no ‘physical’ legacy of the deceased, so do no rush to scatter all the ashes unless you are very sure this is for you. (Or, of course, the request of the deceased) There are a multitude of ideas for how you can inexpensively and imaginatively scatter ashes.
All-in-all, creating your own memorial service can cost you less and prove to be much more personalized.